The number one concern in every family law circumstance involving children is making certain that the child’s needs are met. Yet parents do not always make it easy for their children when going through the process of divorce. There is infighting that often leads to one parent ignoring the child’s needs while attempting to get back at the other parent.
The burden of making decisions regarding where to live or what sort of visitation schedule needs to be created should not be placed upon the children. It makes a child’s life much easier when both parents can sit down and rationally discuss what the child needs and how the child should be raised.
According to one family law attorney, there are at least three means of making a divorce easier for the children. These would include:
- Not placing barriers in the way of a child’s relationship with the other parent. This includes not bad-mouthing the other parent in front of the child, not playing games regarding visitation schedules or the paying of child support, and doing the best to be cordial with the other parent when in the presence of the child.
- Don’t discuss finances with the child. The child does not need to know that the other parent is behind on child support payments or that the child is placing a financial burden upon the parents due to the terms of child custody and support of the child.
- Remain active in the child’s life. The burden of raising the child should not be placed on one parent alone. Children will certainly notice that a parent is absent from their life.
As family law attorneys, we encourage Texas parents to communicate with each other in an active and positive manner when dealing with divorce issues and disputes. Though there will always be areas of disagreement, parents should at least agree that they will do what is best for the child.
Source: Woodlands Online, “Three Ways to Make Divorce Easier for Children,” Teresa De Ford, Sep. 9, 2013