Divorces are a fairly common occurrence in the United States. Some of the divorces involve children. That poses a unique challenge to the parents. Unlike people who don’t have children when they go through a divorce, parents can’t usually leave each other completely alone. Instead, they usually have to work together to raise the children. Our Texas readers might be interested in learning about some dos and don’ts for dealing with children after the divorce.
When possible, both parents should have the same boundaries for the children. When both households have the same rules and the same consequences for dealing with broken rules, it is much easier for the child to adjust to the dual-household lifestyle.
In order to do this, you have to have an open line of communication with the child’s other parent. Healthy communication, even though you are divorced, can show your child how to live as a functional adult. Besides discussing rules, consequences and boundaries, you will also have to work with the other parent to relay information about holidays, doctor appointments, school and social events, and other activities.
Another consideration is how the child’s relationship with both parents is affected. You must encourage your child to have a healthy relationship with the other parent. This means you shouldn’t badmouth the other parent or allow the child to badmouth the other parent. In some cases, going through counseling might help.
Creating a new schedule and essentially a new life isn’t easy after divorce. By making sure your child is adjusting well to the new ways, you can ensure that you won’t be as stressed or worried about the child.
Source: Standard-Times, “WTXCG: Dos and Don’ts of divorce” accessed Mar. 03, 2015